Virginia Satir Quotes

Virginia Satir (14)

Birth:	26th June, 1916
Death:	10th September, 1988
Nationality:	American
Profession:	Author

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Virginia Satir was an American author and psychotherapist, known especially for her approach to family therapy and her work with Systemic Constellations. She is widely regarded as the "Mother of Family Therapy" Her most well-known books are Conjoint Family Therapy, 1964, Peoplemaking, 1972, and The New Peoplemaking, 1988.

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• Life is not what it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Life

  Tags in With, Difference

• Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Humanity, Life

  Tags in Integrity/Individuality, Discovery, Values, Creativity

• Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible — the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Family, Mistake

  Tags in Integrity/Individuality, Worth, Communication

• So much is asked of parents, and so little is given.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Much, Little

• I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Appreciation

  Tags in Inclusion, Judgment

• We can learn something new anytime we believe we can.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Learn, Believe

• We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Growth, Need

• When, however, one reads of a witch being ducked, of a woman possessed by devils, of a wise woman selling herbs, or even a very remarkable man who had a mother, then I think we are on the track of a lost novelist, a suppressed poet. . . indeed, I would venture to guess that Anon, who wrote so many poems without signing them, was often a woman.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Mother

  Tags in Writers And Writing, Women, Poetry, Quotations

• Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in World, Trying

• Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Problems

• We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Allow, People

• What lingers from the parent’s individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Past

  Tags in Part

• The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Growth

• Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don’t realize what messages they are sending.

  Virginia Satir

  Topics in Uncategorized

  Tags in Word, Action